Coming of Age

We all do things according to our age, but there is a time when you are moving from one age group to other. Time like these come announced, you are in this zone of you can do in this age group and you over estimate yourself and then it hits you.. ..Damn i can do this anymore...There is sudden realisation I am getting old ! Its got nothing to do with you health (that always lets you know where you are nothing sudden about it)These are same things which Joey, Chandler and Ross realised in Friends episode when their college buddy was coming to town and they were ready to party and they soon found out that they couldnt!..may be its time to enjoy that coffee shop than that night out with friends..may be its time to buy a home than to rent..may be its time to look for future than to live for moment..may be..may be..there are so many may be's your mind and body lets you know..what you should be doing..hmmmm may be i am slave to uncontrollable signals from them...so listening to them its time i went to sleep after all its 10 pm!

First step and Gandhi

There are things you plan that you want to accomplish, and that plan stays on with you, you postpone and postpone until you forget about it, be it simple everyday chores or your future life decisions. Some times the consequences of putting your decisions may not be too favouritable, but they may be just. Things which your conscience deems right but power may think wrong are the most difficult to begin. In such circumstances the first step towards doing those actions determines the strength of courage a man possess. Being able to see the danger to blissful calm that might be brought about on oneself as a result of ones action and yet being able to take that first step is when fear is overtaken by courage. clearly this posting is inspired by someone whose first step was crucial enough not only to his fate but to the fate of the nation. A person whose thinking was as pure an as simple to be understood by millions of uneducated rural masses, but yet as complicated to untwirl the British laws making indians more rural then it was. So there I ask what was the first step he took and above that what drove him enough courage to take that first step.
Everyday of our life we make decisions, some hard and some normal ones. It are the one that affect our future that make us think twice about following up on those decisions. Clearly many dont follow those decisions, even though they know those are right ones about their future. It is here that Gandhi excelled, it was as simple as it can get for him. if it is right it has to be done, why worry about the outcome, if you know it is right. If there was one era I could live back to it would have been the time when he was alive. People think what would have happened if he was still alive, would we be living a different course as of today, would all the hunger, poverty and prejudices been removed from our society, I guess we all know what would have happened, everybody knows about it, after all everybody has a heart which tells what is right and what is wrong only difference is it is that first step where we fail to take, is what makes the difference to what we want to do.

Year of Change

Someone has said that 'only thing constant in this world is change' what can be more true than that. We come to this life with a bare slate of skill, we learn to crawl, we earn to walk, we learn to learn, and we learn and then we keep learning. It is this zeal to learn from each experience and zeal to to move on that separates people who achieve in life what they want to achieve. How important is this zeal to change the status quo can only be fathomed by the achievements man have achieved till now. Nothing is impossible, Walking on moon...exploring boundaries of impossibility have led man to achieve breakthroughs, but again this blog is about 'change'
This year is gonna be the year of change for life of this blogger, for starters i am joining new job in a week, in a new city. Its a important part of my future career, because the progress I am able to achieve will further cement my self confidence on my abilities. For starters from the people who interviewed me, it looks like they have tremendous hopes from me. somewhere in my interview process they are convinced that i can be the right fit for their high development plans. Am i nervous? No! I am only nervous for the fact that will I be able to achieve the standards I have set in my personal development. Will this change of job and my results from this change, further help me find my self? Every small creeps of undecidness about my abilities will be further laid to rest So is it possible i am overconfident? well that will have to depend on what confidence means? does it mean to know that your upbringing and your attitude provide enough faith to weave through puzzle of life and achieve your goals, then yes I am confident ..over? Yes! otherwise you wont have enough zeal to be successful.
Based on what my professors have said about me and what my previous companies owner and colleagues have gauged me, it should be interesting year to challenge myself to bring my self face to face with my self confidence and let my results speak.
Also it will be interesting year of sorts, will one year be enough for me to settle down, I dont know. Will be able to meet social standards which are being laid on me? I guess time will have to answer those complex questions. But I can be assured on one thing, time has told me to judge my judgments, so life.. I am here to challenge the complexities which may be thrown at me !

'Pursuit' and 'Impossible'

Pursuit:
Princeton rates it as

the act of pursuing in an effort to overtake or capture; "the culprit started to run and the cop took off in pursuit"

a search for an alternative that meets cognitive criteria; "the pursuit of love"; "life is more than the pursuance of fame"; "a quest for wealth"

So what do we pursuit in life, money, 'happyness' status, etc. so why do we call it pursuit, ask Chris Gardner in his early life and he would say food and shelter. Pursuit of something which one doesnt have is what makes it a pursuit. But what about pursuit of something impossible! Impossible?

Princeton defines it as

not capable of occurring or being accomplished or dealt with; "an impossible dream"; "an impossible situation"

totally unlikely

something that cannot be done; "his assignment verged on the impossible"

So is 'Impossible' really impossible? or is just something which is not achievable at this point of time? the key is 'time' If men in 18th century was asked we would go to moon in 20th century, his answer would have been impossible. If you would ask Chris Gardner or Bill Gates they would be billionaires, their answer would probably be impossible. So what phenomenon is it that makes the impossible..possible.
It is the pursuit of impossible that makes the impossible, possible. Men and women have strived painstakingly throughout their life to achieve something which was impossible to make it within the realms of possibility.
When something is not achievable, it usually means that things that are needed to achieve that goal are not discovered, those can be new formulations, new materials, new skills, new partners, anything that could achieve that goal. The time frame to achieve that goal is directly dependent to the desire of oneself to achieve it. But we know for onething..when somebody says "it is impossible" remember it is impossible for now and never underestimate humans desire to conquer the impossibility

Blogosphere

I keep wondering about blogs, how easy it has become to instant celebrity with the advent of blogs. All it takes is publish your "chronicles of daily life" put in some curses, blame it on world and some saucy pics and you are up. Be it a pros, or a politician or a dj or just plain me, it just brings drama of every individual's daily life in the theater of internet readers room. So i lamented, what would make somebody open up their world their daily routines, their likes, their dislikes to thousands out there. Is it their quest of becoming celebrity? or their interest for finding answers to their dilemma from complete strangers? or just to prove that they can write and publish? or just to prove they live the coolest life? BUt whatever it is, people are lining up to read about others. So what is it in human nature to anonymously read about other strangers life, when they cant know about their neighbors, or their close relatives, why cant the time somebody type and publish be utilised to go meet someone and talk to them. What is it in human nature that frowns when someone come over to meet them and have a tea or dinner together. what is he afraid from other person for? I am true believer that every individual has a core of humanity if he is not threatened by others be it financially or physically or socially. so why do we mask those good sides and proudly display the crown if being mean? Well to know that answer I will have keep reading more blogs, hopefully!

Arranged Marriage ...still exists?

As you grow older ..you start thinking about your career, your life, you future..as a matter of fact you start making your own decision. Decisions which might change your future, like what should I make my career of? which city should I move? which college should I attend? Most of these decisions are made by you, based on the past experience you have had and your own liking. But there is one decision probably the most important in ones life which is not taken by you, at least from where I come from, but by your parents and that is marriage. That is arranged marriage, believe it or not there still exists a country where majority of marriages are still fixed by their parents. So why do people still do it and above all why are educated and modern youths still give in, obviously their numbers are decreasing. I am a strong proponent for arranged marriage, because I have seen it work, does it make me a traditionalist or conservative? may be. But the fact is just because something which is traditional doesnt mean that it is an anemia to growth of society. I have seen both societies (Indian and Western) and have tried to learn the differences which exist in pairing of individuals and have figured that what make bonds of marriage last are, when expectations that exist about our partners, have to be compromised inorder to fulfill the demands that society lays upon us to make marriage work, can make a more stronger marriage. Imagine meeting your potential for a matter of few minutes and making your judgments about them with just a few questions. It might terrify the living hell out of people. To top that the pressures that your parents and elders exert on an answer from you so that they can fix a date for marriage as soon as you say ya. But what makes me so confident in this blind faith, that just a pic and background troddles an entourage of relatives to the girls door. Faith that ones parent makes a right decision about their child, faith that their knowledge of world and people have led their quest to this family in first place. Grapevines that have been so trusted and tested before have given them the right information to take such a decision. It might just be inconceivable to western society that such a society exists. society where in the only dates before the marriage are the subtle twisting of social events to facilitate few hours of togetherness. The only live-ins are family holidays which two family might undertake before the main event. After all as it is said in indian culture, 'Marriage is a meeting of two families' rather then two individual'

THINKING IS BANNED!

Everyday you get up and then start your day. I normally brush my teeth once i am up and thats where it happens, a stroke of thought and one thing lets to another and i am soon enough thinking from what will I be doing today, whom i have to call, what do i have to plan, etc etc. Normally you wouldnt think about 'Thinking', but i always get this vibe from some people OK most people, that I think too much, is planning out my day a crime? is fore sighting my career a crime? I love to design my daily life inorder to prevent any unforseen circumstances in advance (save money) and for that I have to think, after all thats what differentiates a man from animal. So is thinking a crime? or is calling out name just a way to get back at more cranially superficial mammal by those who lack the understanding of grey matter. I am not saying you should be thinking sitting on a roller coaster, or watching a game or at pubs. but when you are taking a decision you better do or else you would depending on social security ! Striking thoughts come to me when I am watching a movie and the people around me are in peel of laughter and I am thinking am I different from them all ( not that scene was not funny) but something about dark room and concentration on screen makes me think about my future more. So why do people say "dont think so much" well thats just me !