Arranged Marriage ...still exists?

As you grow older ..you start thinking about your career, your life, you future..as a matter of fact you start making your own decision. Decisions which might change your future, like what should I make my career of? which city should I move? which college should I attend? Most of these decisions are made by you, based on the past experience you have had and your own liking. But there is one decision probably the most important in ones life which is not taken by you, at least from where I come from, but by your parents and that is marriage. That is arranged marriage, believe it or not there still exists a country where majority of marriages are still fixed by their parents. So why do people still do it and above all why are educated and modern youths still give in, obviously their numbers are decreasing. I am a strong proponent for arranged marriage, because I have seen it work, does it make me a traditionalist or conservative? may be. But the fact is just because something which is traditional doesnt mean that it is an anemia to growth of society. I have seen both societies (Indian and Western) and have tried to learn the differences which exist in pairing of individuals and have figured that what make bonds of marriage last are, when expectations that exist about our partners, have to be compromised inorder to fulfill the demands that society lays upon us to make marriage work, can make a more stronger marriage. Imagine meeting your potential for a matter of few minutes and making your judgments about them with just a few questions. It might terrify the living hell out of people. To top that the pressures that your parents and elders exert on an answer from you so that they can fix a date for marriage as soon as you say ya. But what makes me so confident in this blind faith, that just a pic and background troddles an entourage of relatives to the girls door. Faith that ones parent makes a right decision about their child, faith that their knowledge of world and people have led their quest to this family in first place. Grapevines that have been so trusted and tested before have given them the right information to take such a decision. It might just be inconceivable to western society that such a society exists. society where in the only dates before the marriage are the subtle twisting of social events to facilitate few hours of togetherness. The only live-ins are family holidays which two family might undertake before the main event. After all as it is said in indian culture, 'Marriage is a meeting of two families' rather then two individual'

THINKING IS BANNED!

Everyday you get up and then start your day. I normally brush my teeth once i am up and thats where it happens, a stroke of thought and one thing lets to another and i am soon enough thinking from what will I be doing today, whom i have to call, what do i have to plan, etc etc. Normally you wouldnt think about 'Thinking', but i always get this vibe from some people OK most people, that I think too much, is planning out my day a crime? is fore sighting my career a crime? I love to design my daily life inorder to prevent any unforseen circumstances in advance (save money) and for that I have to think, after all thats what differentiates a man from animal. So is thinking a crime? or is calling out name just a way to get back at more cranially superficial mammal by those who lack the understanding of grey matter. I am not saying you should be thinking sitting on a roller coaster, or watching a game or at pubs. but when you are taking a decision you better do or else you would depending on social security ! Striking thoughts come to me when I am watching a movie and the people around me are in peel of laughter and I am thinking am I different from them all ( not that scene was not funny) but something about dark room and concentration on screen makes me think about my future more. So why do people say "dont think so much" well thats just me !

Democracy in action

So after a day of American midterms and transfer of power of house, you would imagine the light house of democracy has ones again exercised a cherished trasure. But I am from india, and the first sign that greets you once you enter India from Wagah border from Pakistan is 'Welcome to worlds biggest Democracy' So are the two democracies different? The way of government is, but are the ideals same? Yes they are, they all mean government of people. But this blog isnt about comparing democracies, it even isnt about comparing nations. The origin of this blog is to be found in the article on CNN.com (not my fav) it was by Louis Dobb. Articles was about how middle class of america struck back. I cant agree more with the fact that middle class has taken for a ride in last six years (again I am not making remarks on any country, since India opened up its market in 1995 its going to happen there too some time in near future) But I think people are being used as a pawn by few and powerful. How can you explain gas in atlanta being at 1.97 (read importantly <2) for a month and then go up to 2.09 day after election and then I read in CNN a quote from an independent oil analyst on why it went above $60/ barrel, something like lower oil reserve in US, problems in Nicaragua !!!! what a bull !! then why was Saddams trial so mysteriously done with at a time just before election and yeah the best yet, not a single bomb in Iraq on the curfew period after saddam decision..actually it was a week before the elections..Why was so popularistic important decision mysteriously appear before important people democratic events? If you believe in miracles, you are reading a wrong blog! but I have always felt and know a fact that up there are few powerful people (businessman and politicians) who are making and controling how we live our life, so is Bush telling me how I should eat ? how i should breathe ...nope.. but he is telling me i am eating spinach which looks all good and dazzling, but in reality it has been grown by a farmer who has used artificial seeds, used chemically perfected fertilizer, which is spread in the air by a plane, and on the way to my table cleansed and shined by i donno what chemicals stored for how long in storages.. he is also telling me sit in a car and drive to work, cos that will help car makers make more money and oil companies richer. and why not use a train or a bus where we can save money or interact with other people so I ask is this democracy? is it the rule of people? is it because common man cant think past his daily life cycle of earning money to buy HDTV or pay mortgage, because big banks, credit companies and lending companies have screwed him so much that he is living in a neck deep credit society. has the human become so materialistic that he has been curtained by the general good of society and humanity. How is this democracy making my life being stopped by being governed by big business and politicians. I am sure there are some people who will talk away from from it. But the fact is that I dont trust anybodys word nowadays and there is a reason to it. when media campaigns by politicians bombard you with the goodness of some one and evilness of others, you are taking the word from them. But do you go and investigate those facts being presentated by them? No, cos you are being considered as a dumb sponge absorbing whatever is being dished out by someone. So I ask you again is this democracy?